I saw it briefly with my wife's grandfather. She has dealt with this twice, and we hope it isn't hereditary. Your uncle is still there, just hidden. Always remember the good times.Well, my uncle whom I did the Alzheimers fundraiser for, has to be put into care. He's become mean, belligerent, basically incoherent. This is been fucking devastating to watch. I mean, its all happened so fast, almost inconceivably fast. He's 66 years old and has the cognitive ability of a toddler. As I have stated before, this is a man I grew up admiring. A man who taught me how to swim, fix shit, drive a Bobcat and countless other things. From traditional Christmas Eve dinner at their house to the annual family reunion that they hosted. It truly is the end of a huge chapter of my life.
Watching my aunt and cousins is equally as gut wrenching. Just the looks of sheer frustration, embarrassment, sadness, helplessness, it's all terrible. I speak to one of my cousins quite regularly, she has been a trooper but she does break down every now and again. My other cousin is just in denial. It's killing him to watch his father like this and it manifests as anger and frustration, I get it. My Aunt? Talk about a strong woman, but she is at wits end as well.
I try to help the best I can when we are all together by giving them a reprieve from being his caretaker and man is it hard. Constant redirection, constant reminders of what the task at hand is, "No Uncle Dick, you can't smoke a cigar in the restaurant", "It's still lit, don't put it in your pocket" etc.
I sincerely hope none of you have to deal with this. Just venting. Thanks for reading.
I dealt with similar last year, and eliminated the toxic person. Couldn't be happier, even if it was my best friend.Been a whirlwind of emotions lately. I feel like I’m a shell of my former self. I’ve been going out of my way to accommodate others and get shit on while doing so.
I need to get to a point where I can start making myself happy again.
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